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I agree. Both are nice. I love to gaze at my husband when he's chubbier and when he's thinner.

I actually have a range of preferences. I adore the feeling of a very fat man in my arms and next to me in bed. But I also love slender guys and buff ones, too. Each kind of body has its own pleasures and delights, visually and tactilely...

i dont think that is wrong, your taste is your taste. some people wpuld think the subject of this web site is not very attractive. i am only 10stone but my gf is probably about 12, and much shorter than me, but i think shes great and i dont think she wud find me as attractive if i was a lot bigger (tho i want to gain a bit hehe).

I have to say that in my observations, most BBWs prefer slim, toned guys over heavier men. Want proof? Go look at the profiles of women on this site that are not feedees or Female FAs. Pay special attention to the box about what they are looking for in a fellow. Over and over you will see the words fit, toned, buff, slender, and the like.

I actually messaged a lady from this site last week and was told immediately and without any sugar coating at all the she did not date fat guys. I was taken a bit aback at the less than kind tone this was told to me in and noted the irony that she was quite a bit heavier than me and I am sure would not have appreciated being told that the way she had just told me.

So, in the end, like has already been said by another poster here....BBWs are women and desire the same things all women do. So that means that a good 95% of them will be more attracted to the slim guys.

Just my observations and $0.02...your mileage may vary.

Am I a little bitter? Sure. Who would not be a bit upset by not just being rejected but being *rudely* rejected by someone they found interesting?

But that was just an example I used because it was fresh in my mind. The meat and potatoes of my post was the last paragraph which can be summed up thusly...

Most women in the world when given a choice would choose a slender guy over an overweight fellow. Since BBWs are women, then this rule generally applies to them, but of course, there are exceptions to ever rule.

I am not trying to cast a dim view over anyone here. so I hope this does not upset anyone. I am just trying to state my opinions from my point of view.

As for myself, I am not a skinny guy. I am 6'4" tall and weigh in at about 400lbs, but that's OK because I am happy being me.

Trust me, I understand this. But what you should know is that when I introduce myself to someone I am not the typical horny net guy (guess that makes me the atypical HNG ). I am always very respectful....always start by greeting them in a message and saying that I would like to get to know them better. I believe you have to be friends before there is even the possibility of anything else. My point is that if you are a woman and I am talking to you then I am always respectful and courteous.

The problem is all the guys that treat the ladies like a piece of meat and start talking to them the first time they meet them like they dialed into a 1-900 sex line. And I know this is a feeder/feedee themed site but maybe the ladies get a little tired of constantly being asked for their weight and weight goals. This is certainly something that can wait until after you have introduced yourself properly at least as opposed to an opening line as some men here see it.

In the end, the poor behavior of others undermines things for the decent guys out there and makes things so much tougher for them. Its not fair, but it is how things are and I am coming to terms with that.

OK Pocky, I need some clarification on what you mean by "for art sake" please. Not making fun or anything, I seriously want to understand what you mean better. How is a man with a slim frame more "artistic" than a larger man?

Thank you for the ego boost, Pocky....I really needed that. It is not often a cutie compliments me. *hugs*

[quote]CreamyBeamyPocky wrote:
actually its the type of frame i use i tend to be better with womens frame and right now i really am trying to work on more fem slender frames. as my art advances my tastes in types changes. once i get good you i sooo wanna try you fem becuz you are sooo adorible

OK...now I am going to start blushing.....and men aren't supposed to do that you know!!! You keep it up and I might even become more confident and then you'll all be sorry!! hehehe

Thank you VERY much, Barbie. I am sure I don't have to tell you what a gorgeous woman you are since I know you have to hear it all the time, but I will anyway. *hugs*

I can only assume that you thought she was talking about what Pocky said. From my reading of the statment she was actually talking about the woman I was talking about in a post or two back that told me she does not date fat guys in a rude manner. Someone else correct me if I am wrong please but I don't think anyone was being rude in the forums.